Why trauma doesn´t exist in a true matriarchal societies

In our modern world, trauma seems inevitable—a common thread woven through nearly every life story. But what if I told you it doesn't have to be this way? In authentic matriarchal societies of the past, trauma as we know it simply didn't exist. And when challenging experiences did occur, these communities had profound wisdom for releasing and healing them.

The foundation: balanced energies

At the heart of true matriarchal societies lies a fundamental principle: the balance of masculine and feminine energies, both within the community and within each individual. When people live in internal balance, their interactions and decisions naturally flow from love and respect—for themselves and for others.

In such societies, acts of violence like rape, assault, robbery, or harmful gossip simply don't occur. These behaviors aren't forbidden or punished—they're literally absent from the collective consciousness. When you grow up in a world where such harm doesn't exist, you cannot conceive of it. It's not part of your reality, so it never becomes part of your actions or expectations.

Raising children without trauma

The prevention of trauma begins in infancy. In authentic matriarchal societies, even babies are taught the true meaning of life through gentle, conscious parenting. From their earliest days, children learn that they are inherently valuable, just as every other person is valuable. They discover the joy of helping others when possible, and most importantly, they master the art of setting boundaries with gentleness and recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Emotional intelligence is cultivated from the very beginning. Children learn to feel and recognize their own emotions, to articulate their feelings openly, and to heal and comfort themselves and others when facing mental or physical discomfort. By learning to navigate their emotions, energies, and natural rhythms, people grow into balanced, reasonable adults who maintain harmony within themselves and their communities.

Life without trauma: anything but boring

You might imagine that a life without trauma would be dull or unchallenging, but nothing could be further from the truth. People still face meaningful challenges—learning new skills, developing athleticism, engaging in creative work, and pursuing personal growth. Life remains rich with purpose and evolution.

What we call depression or burnout still appears in matriarchal societies, but it's understood and approached completely differently. When someone enters a phase of transformation or needs to reinvent themselves, the community recognizes this as a natural cycle of life. The person takes the time they need to care for themselves, supported rather than stigmatized. These periods of transition aren't viewed as breakdowns but as sacred opportunities for growth and renewal.

The wisdom we can find again

The trauma-free existence of authentic matriarchal societies isn't magical—it is intentional. It is built on balanced energies, respectful boundaries, emotional literacy, and community support. If we reclaim these principles and integrate them into our modern lives, we not only healing ourselves, but also creating a healthier foundation for future generations. It's time to raise our children as if we life in a matriachal society today.