How to build self-confidence as a woman

What children and women told me

Why so many women feel insecure

Why so many women feel insecure

Because you are a woman, you will notice that many people expect something of you, or above all, have an opinion about you. Go left, and they say you should have gone right. Jump high, and that isn't good either. Jump low the next time, and you didn't try hard enough. Criticism is one of the easiest ways to gain power over someone and make yourself look better.

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Insecurity is also an earning model. Many companies send women one basic message: "With my product, you are better." Their marketing shows standards for women that nobody can meet. Because of the sheer amount of these messages, that impossible standard has become the expectation of many men and women. Your insecurity was taught to you, and what was taught can be unlearned.

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Insecurity can also be passed on through your female lineage. Women of earlier generations learned that their boundaries were unimportant and that their opinion did not count. That pain still echoes in many women today.

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Release the expectations of others

You may let go of those expectations and opinions. In fact, you need to. They cost you a huge amount of energy and hold you back. Only you know your path. Deep inside, you know whether you are making a good choice. Your intuition is often flawless. You can feel your own boundaries and you know which choices are right for you. So choose your own path, just as every other woman may choose hers.

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Criticism will come. As soon as you differ from someone's image of how a woman should be, they will often try to make you fit that image. Try to laugh about it. Criticism usually says more about the person who gives it than about you. It reflects their own fear, insecurity or pain. The more you stand in your power, and the more clearly you express who you are and what you stand for, the less criticism affects you.

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Everything you need is already within you

Your soul carries all the talents and skills she needs for this life from the moment of birth. When people tell you that you can't do something, they usually mean that they can't do it themselves. It says nothing about your possibilities. Look at what you can do, find a place where you fit, and surround yourself with people who believe in you.

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Sometimes you lose your belief in yourself. That is normal. These phases are meant to bring you back to yourself. Somewhere in the mist of your soul, your strengths lie hidden. You find them again through connection: in nature, in silence, in meditation, or in the loving eyes of another soul.

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Words that make you stronger

Every word you speak or think carries a vibration that influences your energy. As girls, many of us heard different words than boys: be sweet, be quiet, be careful. These subtle differences continue into adult life and make it harder for women to fully develop.

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You can change this. Always say what you want to achieve, as concretely as possible. When you notice an old belief, say clearly: "I was taught that I can't do this. I can do this. I am going to do this." Be aware that you can do much more than people tell you. Often, when you believe you can do something, you can. Sometimes with a little help.

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Also make yourself the norm. When you compare yourself to someone else, take yourself as the starting point and look at what the other person can do more or less than you, rather than measuring yourself against them.

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Your body shows your confidence

Your body tells your life story. Your posture shows whether you are weighed down by burdens or standing tall with pride and self-confidence. You are beautiful as you are. When you live healthily, your body is exactly right.

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Laugh a lot. When you laugh, you create happiness hormones that heal your body, and you look happier and healthier. Laugh with your eyes too: when you laugh with your eyes, your soul laughs along.